Behavioral Insights Team
December 28, 2024
Practical strategies to help your child develop meaningful friendships and improve social interactions.
Watching your child struggle to make friends or navigate social situations can be heartbreaking. Social skills don't always come naturally—especially for children with autism or developmental differences—but the good news is that they can absolutely be taught and practiced.
Here are practical, evidence-based strategies you can use at home to help your child build the social skills they need to thrive.
Social skills include a wide range of abilities:
Children learn by watching. Demonstrate the social skills you want your child to develop—greet people warmly, use polite language, listen actively, and show empathy in your daily interactions.
Try This:
Narrate your social interactions: "I'm going to wave and say 'Hello!' to our neighbor. Did you see how she smiled back? That means she's happy to see us!"
Use pretend play to practice social situations in a safe, low-pressure environment. Act out scenarios like meeting a new friend, asking to join a game, or handling disagreements.
Scenarios to Practice:
Large groups can be overwhelming. Begin with shorter, structured playdates with one child in a familiar environment where you can guide interactions.
Keep it Short & Structured:
Create simple stories that describe social situations and appropriate responses. Read them together before events to prepare your child for what to expect.
Example Social Story:
"When I go to the playground, other children may be playing. I can say 'Hi, can I play?' If they say yes, I join them. If they say no, that's okay. I can find something else to do or ask an adult for help."
Break down the components of conversation into simple, teachable steps.
Starting:
Maintaining:
Create charts or cards showing different emotions, conversation starters, or social rules. Visual reminders can help children remember and apply skills independently.
Acknowledge every effort, no matter how small. "I noticed you said 'thank you' to your friend—that was so kind!" Positive reinforcement builds confidence and motivation.
Activities with clear rules and routines can be easier than free play. Consider:
When mistakes happen (and they will!), focus on teaching rather than correcting harshly.
❌ Instead of:
"You're being rude! Stop interrupting!"
✅ Try:
"Remember to wait for your turn to talk. Let's practice waiting together."
Social skills take time to develop. Some days will be better than others, and that's normal. Keep practicing, stay positive, and trust the process.
Social skills develop at different rates. What works for one child may not work for another. Pay attention to your child's unique strengths and challenges, and adjust your approach accordingly.
If you're concerned about your child's social development, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional. ABA therapy and social skills groups can provide targeted support.
Our team specializes in helping children develop the social skills they need to build meaningful friendships and navigate social situations with confidence.